Saturday, April 17, 2010

Huge predicament

My grandmother is really sick with cancer. She lives in NY. My mom is one of four daughters...2 live near my grandma, one lives in Cali and my mom lives in NC. For my whole life we've only gone to NY every 2 years to visit relatives, so obviously I don't feel super close to my extended family.
My aunts have requested that my mom (who has been a nurse for 30 years) come to NY to help take care of my grandma since she probably won't be around very much longer. Obviously I want my mom to spend time with her mom. There's just one problem...

My mom is G's caretaker while we're at work.

Yea...this is complicated. My mom has her own apartment (the lease is up June 12) but she stays with us during the week because she doesn't have a driver's license. So, in case you haven't figured it out...here's our list of things to do ASAP:
  • find a day care for G (I am dreading this...and I don't know if I'll be able to find one who will take him for only 7 weeks...hubby and I are both teachers and that's how long we have left in school).
  • box up and move all of mom's stuff to storage (I am also dreading this...she has a lot of crap!)
  • get mom to the airport
I know these are only 3 things, but the first 2 are HUGE. Trust me, I have not taken it for granted that I've had my mom (i.e. someone I know and trust with the most important thing in my life). We also have a good situation as far as payment because a 5 star day care would cost us $800 a month. We're getting by with paying mom's rent ($605) and her utilities (about $100). It's a great situation...and now it's gone. I want to hyperventilate just thinking about leaving G with strangers.

I'm also upset because we tried to go to NY during Christmas break (which would have been crazy since G was only a month old...but we had 2 weeks off to go) and spring break (which was last week), but my aunts said it wasn't a good time. Now hubby and I absolutely cannot go until June 16...and if we don't make it in time I'm going to be devastated.

Prayers would be much appreciated.
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  1. KathleenApril 19, 2010 at 6:45 AM

    Sending my prayers your way. Also I don't know what kind of day care is in your area but ask around. Talk with other teachers that put their children in day care. Go and look at the day care and see what they have for yourself and if you gut tells you no...walk away. Always go with what feels best for the family. You don't have to tell the day care that you are only going to be there 7 weeks. Most will require you give a notice before you pull him out. Just find out what that is and you should be good to go. It is scary to leave them with someone new for the first time. But it will be good for him to interact with other babies and be social. Good Luck!!

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  2. AlissaApril 19, 2010 at 8:53 AM

    That's tough. I'm thinking of you. I can't imagine having to do all that so quickly.

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  3. chitogr54April 22, 2010 at 9:17 AM

    My prayers go with you and I pray for success in your endeavors. Go and personally check the daycare centers in your area. Use this link - Daycare - to know the standards of present daycare centers so you can get the very best that these centers can offer. The creative arts, including music, movement, dramatic play, puppetry, painting, sculpture, and drawing, are a crucial part of early childhood. Not only do the arts allow children to express themselves, but creative activity can enhance development of children's skills in literacy, science, math, social studies, and more.

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